Ashley Ayan

Do we give up early?

Blog Post created by Ashley Ayan on Oct 14, 2015

I received an article written by Jeniffer Lawrence thru In the article Jennifer Lawrence talked about how "being liked" influenced her negotiation decision. She did not wanted to be seen "difficult" or "spoiled".


"It’s hard for me to speak about my experience as a working woman because I can safely say my problems aren’t exactly relatable. When the Sony hack happened and I found out how much less I was being paid than the lucky people with dicks, I didn’t get mad at Sony. I got mad at myself. I failed as a negotiator because I gave up early. I didn’t want to keep fighting over millions of dollars that, frankly, due to two franchises, I don’t need. (I told you it wasn’t relatable, don’t hate me)."  - Jennifer Lawrence is an Academy Award–winning actress.


This is a concerning issue to me. Not only for salary negotiation, but everytime I try to give my opinion, I contemplate what tone should I use to be heard without appearing aggressive. Does any men worry about it? Are we as women conditioned to behave this way? How do we change that?